Then today I took him to a trainer/boarding place. I even thought about returning her, too. [–]prolixdreams 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). It will take time for you, too. I did a lot of research, have been looking at different dogs for months, and thought I was ready. I recently (last week friday) adopted my first dog. It took her several months to fully adjust. [–]LilDarlinHusky 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child). We only had one pee accident in the apartment (which was our fault because it had been three hours after a hike since we had taken him out. We adopted a black lab mix just under a month ago, and he is the best boy. vi. Your dog may be the same. I held my breath and imagined life how it was so I could remember it before I opened the doors to hell. http://www.aspca.org/pet-care/virtual-pet-behaviorist/dog-behavior/weekend-crate-training Sigh. Walk him, train him, play with him, pet him. and join one of thousands of communities. Your dog just came from a stressful situation. I've been there (and very recently). take a camera with you to take lots of pictures in the hospital. You worry he'd be better off with someone else, but he'd be just as much work for them. I know it doesn't seem that way right now, but that's because your anxiety is what's ruling your mind at the moment. I really liked the place. Even now, almost 18 months later, there are times when I feel a twinge of regret. Multiple tags are fine. I'm not a patient person, and a dog has been a real test for me as well. Some exceptions may be granted to posts with a PSA quality. destroyed/gotten out of his crate but only so far as to end up in the garage and then didn't even relieve himself in the garage. Our second, more timid cat (Felicity) has since come around to having him in the house as well, and is starting to return to her usual routine. Maybe it was the voodoo spell I put on her? Give yourself a month and see how you feel at the end of it. Advice on this forum is absolutely not a substitute for professional advice from a certified behaviorist, trainer, lawyer, or medical professional. He said he opened the garage door and the dog was out of his crate. Would he be better off with another couple/family? And this must be scary for him, too. I'm home from work today, and will putting him in a large playpen with his crate attached starting tomorrow from 9-5. I feel regret every time I bring home a living creature.. both cats, my gecko, and even fish for my tanks. Keep training fun for you both if it isn't go find another trainer or activity. I had three tearful breakdowns yesterday after all the trouble with the crates and the other dog at the park. She is great and she's already come a long way, but it is so so hard at times. When I walk ihim on the street and he doesnt chase cars I am thankful. Give the dog time to adjust to your schedule, and give yourself time to fit the dog into yours. It is SO up and down. [–]breakmefaster 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child). Intellectually I knew it was a big decision going in and definitely not one made lightly. When in doubt, go to the vet. Barked for hours on end while I was gone at work (apartment) and drove my neighbors crazy. Really. I adopted my first dog about a month and a half ago and even though I did a ton of research beforehand and knew it would be hard, I guess you really don't know until you experience it. Oh god blood everywhere. Some background, before this adoption I had a chihuahua/dachshund mix that I adopted with my partner when he was 9 months old. Otherwise he's quite well mannered, nothing an obedience class won't fix. [Fluff] My dog learned to hide and jump out at us to scare us when we come up the stairs, [Discussion] Handicapped German Shepherd passed, looking to gift her wheelchair to anyone who may need it. And he will love it. A total list of related subreddits may be found here, including breed subreddits, dog picture subreddits, and other animal subreddits. Who knows. I just thought I'd chime in and say that I felt this way for upwards of a week or so after I adopted my little guy - didn't help that he was still recovering from luxating patella surgery at the time! He hasn't been fixed and has a bit of a humping problem, but I think that will be fine once neutered (so not a worry). See our rules and guidelines. How hard is it going to be to find an apartment that will allow 2 cats and a dog? DogsBite.org - We begin this post with an image from dog bite attorney Kenneth Phillips, who began a Do Not Adopt a Pit Bull campaign in 2018.His latest video shows how the federal government mobilized after six vaping deaths, but the government says "nothing at all" about the many deaths inflicted by pit bulls over the past decade. Don't worry everyone goes through this. ... help Reddit App Reddit coins Reddit premium Reddit gifts. Alright r/dogs.. here's the scoop. [–]smallfrog17 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago* (3 children). The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. You're gonna be fine. /r/dogs is a discussion-based subreddit, meant for asking questions, sharing information, and learning about our beloved canine companions and related dog-centric topics. I adopted my dog in October 2015 and while I fell in love with him immediately, I had some pretty intense feelings of regret for the first couple of months after bringing him home. Our mutt was like this when we got him, I couldn't walk through the garden for the first 2 months or so; all better now. I took a half day of work so we will see how it goes tomorrow. It's unreasonable to expect that both of you will just click instantly. Pets become family, but you need to have a bond with them. sometimes. My dog is an ESA for me. He needed time to adjust to his new life with strangers, and I needed time to get to know him. What a RELIEF!!! Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. The other thing is he seems fine with other dogs. Be respectful. Get yourselves into a training class as soon as possible - that will help grow the bond. Maybe she just needed adjustment? Titles of [RIP] posts must be in the following format: "[RIP] Dog name, Dog breed (optional), Dog age (optional)". This is common. First off thank you for all the encouraging words and kind advice. All I know is I feel sick and horrible. He hasnt shown signs of that. Kinda. In a few weeks you'll both settle in and it will be awesome. Users are more likely to accept criticism when it is delivered with understanding and compassion. So I picked up 3 days ago and our adoption adventure has begun! The beginning is the hard part; it only gets better. For example, "[RIP] Speckles, Mixed breed, 17". I know puppy classes where part of what made me over come my puppy blues. I watched one of our cats (Khaleesi) grooming him! Good grief. It was in the 2nd week of having him that we had a breakthrough. [–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children). It probably took more than month before we got into our routine and started to really properly bond. When I first brought my dog home, I was so stressed because he seemed to have separation anxiety issues. This is what worked for me. I just adopted a five year old, really sweet cat a week ago and really regret it. I cant take him back and quite frankly I dont want to but now Im just panicking. Please consider pet insurance or set aside a small amount of money every month for future veterinary expenses. No accidents, no destruction, just confidence issues. hi! Pictures are only allowed in approved, themed picture threads (such as Photo Friday). He had his peanut butter kong toy, a kibble toy, bones, everything else you would need. When possible, give information such as height at the shoulder, weight, age, region of origin, and behavioral traits. I have had family dogs my whole life but this was my first one on my own. I can pat him and play with him and it's fine, but I just don't have the bond I thought I'd have with him. It lifted my spirits hugely. Or really- chewing. Many pet adoption contracts require you to return the pet to the shelter if the adoption doesn’t work out. She's been very helpful. And right now I havent exposed him enough. ": For best results, include clear photos of the dog standing from the front and from the side. My dog gets along with 95% of other dogs and then just plain dislikes the other 5%. April 11, 2003 . Has anyone else felt like this? If you regret having placed your child for adoption, I think your subsequent actions heavily depend on what your initial intent for placement was. But give it time and the situation will definitely improve as you both settle into your new routines! The Dodo serves up emotionally and visually compelling, highly sharable animal-related stories and videos to help make caring about animals a viral cause. There are worse things. All [RIP] posts must be approved by the moderators before they will appear in /r/dogs. How hard is it going to be to go away/find a sitter? Babies; ... That movie is a high-level highlight reel of adoption and paints an unrealistic picture. No pee or poop in the bedroom! The risk of adoption disruption increases with age, from less than 1 percent in infants to up to 26 percent for kids adopted after age 15, according two 1988 studies. It doesn't matter about the age of the dog so much as the feeling of responsibility of what you're taking on. Spend time one on one. 10. Intellectually I knew it was a big decision going in and definitely not one made lightly. Try to make a yelp if you can and just leave, don't even look at him. I plan to meet her today with him. Oh lord, I remember the first time we left our dog in the house alone and she howled like she was dying and I thought we were the cruelest owners on earth and should never have gotten a pup... then later that week she ate a cat toy and we panicked and rushed her to the vet and I thought she was going to eat everything in the house and get a blockage and die... You're going to be fine. I posted an update with good news, too :], [–]ayimeraGreyhound 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child). Now I would happily fight anyone that tries to do anything with her. Not enough to draw blood or even break the skin but enough that it did hurt. Also, save the first trip to the dog park or any other busy environment for a few weeks later, to avoid overwhelming and confusing him. i never regret the adoption. These feelings are totally eclipsed by the joy and contentedness that my dog brings me, but they still happen occasionally. Joined Dec 8, 2015. If possible, include information about your general location, otherwise responses will likely target the average US dog owner. (self.dogs), submitted 5 years ago * by throwaway4477880. I had to go back to work so I brought him to the garage where he wouldnt be able to tear at the ground and had to go after a quick walk. Totally normal! A week and a half ago!? At first it seems like every unexpected thing is a huge, insurmountable problem. when the klutz misses the toy and catches you) but that's just life I'm afraid,. In a recent article in The New York Times, John Tierney discusses recent research indicating that animals may experience feelings of regret.One scientist quoted in the article defines regret as the recognition of a missed opportunity. [Breeds] What breed(s) does my dog look like? Not saying this is a solution, just that over time dogs will mature and things will get better! Look up "puppy blues" for similar stories. Totally normal. Anyways, he didnt poop or pee in the garage, so thats good? Even your family dogs had a transition period before they learned the rules, right? It can take time, but it should work. Google "affordable vet care" or "low cost vet care" in your area. It's hard at first and completely overwhelming, but you'll both get through it! Thank you.. It's understandable why she regrets it, but she should remember that she did the right thing. Maybe I hyped myself up. Also, if you go the crate training route, which isn't bad (my dog is also crate trained and it's a godsend for car trips and bladder control), start from scratch - don't just put him there. That special bond happens because you and your dog know each other well and enjoy each other's company. I am getting him into a training situation now so Im thankful. Our dog also nips (not too hard) when he gets excited/wants to play, but we're slowly teaching him to stop that by freezing and not moving until he's sat for 5 seconds. I will still come home at lunches but it seems the dog is liking this not crating thing. But after awhile we both got into the routine. Wait for the bond to set in and you will never look back. No matter what, I feel regret.. but after a few days or so, the regret is gone. I'm not from the US but there is surely groups or obedience classes near you that you could try and that will help show you how to bond with your dog. My dog recently was passed away at only two and a half, but I felt good knowing I spent all the time that I could, with him. A senior dog may have age-related issues that could be either time-consuming (sight or hearing loss) or expensive.. Undesirable behaviors that have been picked throughout the dog's life may be harder to train him out of. © 2021 reddit inc. All rights reserved. Maybe it's some anxiousness and fear of change bubbling to the surface, I don't know. Other times we walk or are in stores and he seems fine to walk right by other dogs. Constant feeling like I was way in over my head and making a huge mistake... but I stuck with him and I'm SO glad I did. Posts requesting financial assistance will be automatically removed. Oye, Im sorry its so cold where you're at. Vent. Bring him on any dog-friendly errands, and sign up for an obedience class together. Yes dogs are crazy escape artists. And maybe it was but maybe my problems aren't so bad. Their lives are hectic with jobs and kids. A Pit Bull Adoption Disaster. It wasn't easy for me but now I can not imagine living without her. :] Thats a cute story. This is also a good source for crate training. I've broken down and cried about 3 times already with the frustration of trying to teach her to walk well on a leash. You will have a much easier time once he is use to his new life and knows that he is home :). After a blissful three day weekend with no issues, I thought this was too good to be true. Cats are so easy, you can leave them for a weekend, even longer, with extended feeders. Adoption regret? He has missing teeth and poor skin with an immense body odor. I pictured the door being scratched and ripped open. I dont know.. A friend of mine owns a dog boarding / walking business about 45 minutes from my house. my only regret is only holding her in like two pictures. When he finally started to get "in tune" with us everything was great, but it definitely took some time. Not to mention the fact that it is -20 here and taking gloves off to give her treats is nearly giving me frostbite. [Help] [Vent] - Adoption Regret? What is going to happen to my social life (which by the way, usually consists of my boyfriend and I on the couch watching Netflix). He learned to at least tolerate being left at home alone. Give him more time to adjust and trust you :) It's a big change for both you and him. Edit: So he just 'bit' me. I know his problems could be worse. ": Include the responses to these questions if you want to know what breed is right for you. But I think I'm having buyers remorse. [–]beeasaurusrexJaime BC/AS mix 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child). You can teach an old dog new tricks, but undoing behavior is harder.. I don’t even regret the dogs I only had a short time because I learned soooo much! I felt like a failure watching this because my relationship is unlike that of Michael Oher and Leigh Anne Touhy. Both you and kitty needs time to settle in, and once you're into a routine, things will be much more comfortable! They told me he was 5 years old at that time but the more I've paid attention to him, he definitely seems much older. That was really hard to get over. I thought I was ready for this. growled at a dog on the other side of a fence. I dont have issues waking up to take him out- I dont mind that at all. Maybe its my fault for not leaving him as much as I should have those first three days over the weekend. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. That, plus enough exercise and just spending time together will all help him build a routine and settle in. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 28740 on r2-app-0e39c901d7220919c at 2021-01-11 23:32:14.999928+00:00 running fbc03cb country code: US. I was ready to give him back, and I didn't sleep, and he was crying and yelling and had an accident and I thought he was just a bad dog. We actually did have a two week trial period where we would be refunded if she didn't fit our situation and I thought about returning her everyday. It won't be long before he's part of your life and these feelings are a distant memory. The "bite" incident may just be because he's still settling to his new environment. Did I make a mistake? But training when done right = bonding. She became comfortable, and in the process, that made things easier for me. [Fluff] – Stories, lighthearted discussion, or feel-good web page links. Tags go in the title of posts and must be surrounded by [square brackets]. I knew she was my dog right then and there, little Lilly, and as I was leaving I had the adoption forms in my hot little hands. "Adopters Regret" is completely normal! 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